When business ventures, careers, relationships or dreams didn’t go as we planned and a change in course was unavoidable we look at these situations as failures. Without a clear picture of a situation, it can be impossible to pivot, solve or make progress.
Here is how successful people handle their setbacks and building resilience
They expect setbacks.
Any successful person experiences setbacks. It goes hand in hand with trying something bigger and better. Setbacks happen, so expect and accept them when they come. Embrace your badge of honor and own it.
They rely on “now what?”
Successful people find a path to progress.
Make a list of options and then evaluate each of them based on what the situation requires, not what feeds your greatest emotional need.
They manage their self-talk.
Setbacks and disappointment can create self-doubt. Manage your internal thoughts so you stay focused on the future and what you can do next. Give yourself credit for doing important work and trying something new.
After all, a setback is a setup for a comeback.
They learn what must be learned
Successful people, reveals a confident willingness to learn what must be learned. Successful people determine what they must learn to become an entrepreneur. A lack of experience or knowledge doesn’t close a door, but defines what must be learned.
The lack of knowledge was a path that must be followed rather than a dead end.
Less emotion and more information.
Objectively size up what happened. Was there an event or decision that created a change in course? Be a researcher and actually write down what worked and what didn’t. Write down what factors created the setback.
Seeing the facts on paper void of emotion can crystallize the facts. Be objective.
They manage their blind spots.
If failure causes you to lose perspective, anticipate what will cause you to lose yours. What’s your blind spot?
when we can’t see the progress we had hoped for, our blind spot is growing. Others might assume that a setback is exclusively their fault and miss other contributing factors. It keeps you from accurately assessing what really happened and what you need to do.
They think tomorrow more than next year.
A change in course can be overwhelming when you have too many decisions to make. Feeling overwhelmed leads to stagnation because doing nothing seems easier in the moment than making big decisions.
Instead, ask yourself, What can I do tomorrow or next week to make progress? Start there. You need a long-term direction, but it might evolve rather than being an aha moment.
They set time limits for disappointment.
Allow yourself time to acknowledge your feelings of disappointment. Put a time limit on how long you will focus on that feeling. You might still feel disappointment, but redirect that emotional energy toward progress.
Your promotion didn’t happen or you weren’t hired for your dream job—accept your feelings as they are. Once recognized, quickly move on to “now what?”
Author : Anupananda Baruah (betterlifemantra)Tags: manage selftalk overcome adversity selfhelp